Next Week’s Experiment #2 – Self Discovery to Stop Self-Betrayal

The source of our richest life lies in running as fast as we can towards who we are and what we do best (most happily) and listen to the stories written on our heart by the Creator.  If we do this consistently and with faith and purpose, it will be impossible not to become rich!

When asked what has been my greatest lesson in this first full week of my experiment with “The Science of Getting Rich”, it is this:

Never betray who you are and the desires you hold in your heart.  These are your unique gifts, which are the source of your richest treasures. #SGRFieldbook

Where do we go wrong in getting rich? Answer: We underestimate our unique genius and all too often fail to follow up on our great ideas.

As such, the trouble with the lesson for many people like me has been two-fold:

  1. Somewhere along the line, we have accepted a fallacy that we were not born rich.  I learned this untruth as I watched my own parents struggle to gain and maintain a good life.  After living an affluent life, we lost their house in foreclosure. This experience instilled a negative belief that even if I attained the desires of my heart and all happiness, I should expect to lose it at any time (and likely when I reached my pinnacle) like my parents did.
  2. We do not take the time to know ourselves and search our souls for what we really and truly want – a part from we think others think of us. The opinions of family, friends and even strangers severely distorts our vision of the true self.  We conform to that false vision, rather than actualizing our most sacred self.  We often do less to be authentically ourselves, and more to be what everyone else makes us out to be.   Tragic.

To move into a richer more healthy being, I realized that we cannot advance unless we identify ways to stop betraying who we were born to be and honor the story on our hearts.

This week, my experiment will be:

  1. IMAGE CREATION: Create an image of my best possible self (BPS). What do I look like?  What things do I like to do?  What are my desires? Find the ideal you, the healthy, wealthy, joyful and productive your.  Now, hold that image of myself with me throughout the day. Tweak the details of the image throughout the week. Make the image clear and vivid. Make it memorable.  Hold that image in my mind, especially when meeting any challenge.  What would my BPS do in this situation?
  2. DAILY MEDITATION & SEEK QUIET MOMENTS:  To remove limiting thoughts and maintain focus on an authentic self, meditate each morning for at least 10 minutes (or the last thing before going to sleep each night).  Guided meditation, prayer, quietness, ponder spiritual literature – any meditation process, will do. Do what feels comfortable for you and your beliefs.  I happen to love a +30 year old meditation process sold by Silva Life.  You can access free Silva recordings that are wonderful, but again use what is comfortable to you.

Although I call this Experiment #2, this will be an ongoing activity that must become a lifelong habit to renew the mind and combat the urge to fall back into old habits and combat old fears or limiting beliefs.

I’ll let you know how it does for me.  Join me if you like this week.  Let me know your experiences.

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Spirit of the SGR Experiment

“Whatever course you decide upon there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong.  There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right.  To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires….courage.”  – Ralph Waldo Emerson

OBSERVATIONS:

When I embarked on this experiment, the most interesting thing was to hear the reaction – and sometimes indication from well-meaning critics!   Can she do it?  What is all this self-help SGR junk?  What are you trying to   achieve?  Does this interfere with your day job?  On, and on and on…

So, now I understand why Emerson also was quoted as saying, “Self-trust is the first secret of success.”   Courage is self-trust.  Trust:  The resolve to believe that the path you are taking is  right and worthwhile.  

The negative reaction surprised me, but perhaps not for the reasons you might have guessed.  Their reaction started a tidal wave of self-doubt and negative self-talk in my mind about my ability to perform this experiment.  After a restless night or two, the self-doubt and questioning gave way to something WONDERFUL:  the realization that perhaps others questioned that I had the character to make this process work.  Honestly, I had my doubts, too.

Stephen Covey defined character as a measure of three things: one’s integrity, motive, and intent.  Character builds trust, including trust in myself to:

  • Commit to the process as a new way of life and learn from any mistakes along the way
  • Create a definitive and worthy vision of why I want riches and how I plan to use these riches to contribute to bettering me and others I meet
  • Maintain focus on a single vision: getting rich as a service to myself and others – and as a gift to the Creator
  • Do ‘the work‘, without over-thinking it:  decide on my goals, be passionate about their accomplishment, and act with no senseless second-guessing
  • Be a good steward of all of the resources at my disposal, and
  • Acknowledge and be ever grateful for my accomplishments and forgive myself when needed.

I can see that becoming rich is not just gaining wealth and abundant living.  It will be a process by which I will also be required to strengthen my mind and my belief in myself – and more importantly to be clear with myself as to what I want to get out of this SGR process.  To sum it up, this will test and grow my character, and teach me to trust myself.  This must be the battle that rich people face every day.

“Sow a thought and you reap an action; sow an act and you reap a habit; sow a habit and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a destiny.”  – Emerson (yes, again!)

I am feeling richer already…

Experiment #1: Muddled Thoughts of a Poor Person (RIP)

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” – Thomas Edison

As I read and contemplated Chapters 1 and 2 of SGR as part of Experiment #1, I wanted to characterize my starting point.  Today, who am I and what do I believe?

After much silent thought, I realized that I had adopted a destructive way of looking at things.  These beliefs were not in alignment with the Science.

Here are my Top 10 unspoken beliefs.  It reads like a checklist of “what not to do” in the SGR:

‘Top 10’ Destructive Beliefs

  1. Things are good (when they are not).
  2. I am okay as I am.
  3. Richness is an abstract idea, not a concrete goal or achievement.
  4. Following my dreams is too risky.
  5. They deserve it more than I because they are/have/do/know______________. [fill in the blank – too many destructive possibilities to list here].
  6. I don’t need a rich and abundant life.  I have my health and family.  What more is there?
  7. Only the ungrateful would ask for more than this.
  8. Who am I to want riches and abundance?
  9. Richness is vanity. Money cannot buy happiness.
  10. Although I truly love learning, beauty and travel and grew up around much of the best when I was a child, as a result of a sudden loss of income I have grown accustomed to endeavored only to borrow books from the catalogue local library, get cheap seats at Broadway show, browse shopping sites (but never dare to buy) online. An extravagent trip is going 50 miles to a public park.

Does any of this sound familiar to you?  Regardless of the outcome of this SGR experiment, one huge benefit to me is to shed these horrifying beliefs.